I truly believe the power of the mind is a wonderful thing. Our minds really can take us to success –or it can hold us back, just by what it is telling us. And what I mean here is, our own internal dialogue (or mind monkeys, as I also like to call them).
For years (through school, university and the first part of my career), I wasn’t confident at all. I really wanted to be the person who gave their opinion freely, who spoke out at meetings and got credit for the ideas which were going on in my mind. However, my inner dialogue was completely holding me back. When I was in meetings, my mind monkeys would be saying, “You can’t say that, they won’t take you seriously”, or “That’s just stating the obvious”.
So I would sit and listen to everyone else come up with ideas. And sometimes someone else would come up with my idea – and guess, what? The congratulations would pour in for that person, and I would be left feeling frustrated.
So I knew that I had to change my thinking – because there was nothing wrong with my views or solutions to problems; what was wrong was that I didn’t have the confidence to voice them. What’s worse is that I knew that this was holding back my career and my future earnings potential.
So I learnt to overcome those mind monkeys – when my inner dialogue said something negative, I challenged it and replaced it with positive thoughts, to drive me forward. I started making contributions in meetings – and I got recognition, I got respect and I got promoted – a lot!
So are you holding yourself back? Are you avoiding situations because of your inner dialogue? If so, change your thinking. Think of positive thoughts that you can say to yourself – and when those negative thoughts creep in, replace them with your positive thoughts.
Also, just take a couple minutes each day to repeat those positive thoughts to yourself – because the more you say those things, the more your mind will believe it – and if your mind believes it, your actions and success will follow!