Ok, confession time – I wouldn’t describe myself as a naturally confident person. In fact, I spent most of my childhood, teens and early twenties being terrified at the prospect of having to present in front of a group (no matter how small). If I had to do a presentation, I would lie awake the night before, imagining everything going wrong – and when I had to present, my knees would physically shake.
However, I was also ambitious and I knew that if I was to progress in my career, I had to overcome my FEAR. At that time in my life I had never heard of NLP, let alone studied it, so I had to rely on my own determination to get me past that feeling of being terrified to confident. So what did I do? I put myself out there. Instead of hiding from situations which made me feel uncomfortable, I actually looked for them. My theory was that practice makes
perfect confident (well, ish). But over time, that is what happened – I stopped dreading those presentations, and just got on and did them. Eventually, I even began to enjoy presenting because the instant feedback is quite gratifying. And of course now, I coach and train people for a living so presentations are second nature to me – who would have believed it all those years ago?
Would I now describe myself as a confident person? No, definitely not – but I completely hold the belief that my (lack of) confidence should never hold me back. At the end of the day, with some practice (and positive thinking – thank you, NLP!) I can achieve whatever I set my mind to.